Single women still have sex with exes

Almost half of single women have regularly had sex with an ex boyfriend while looking for a new lover, a shocking new survey has revealed.

The poll of 1,000 men and women found that the majority of girls who resort to sex with the ex do so because they "miss physical intimacy," the Daily Mail reported.

A further 31 percent admitted it was because they hoped to reignite a relationship with a former flame.

An additional 43 per cent of women also admitted to regularly sleeping with an ex while on the lookout for a new partner. An even higher 47 per cent of men confessed to doing the same.

And they aren't alone. A-listers Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher famously reunited after their divorce before going their separate ways again, as did Cheryl Cole and her former husband, Chelsea footballer, Ashley.

Dating site SeekingArrangement.com which conducted the research said that the top five reasons for getting back into bed with an ex-partner also included having too much to drink, flirting on Facebook and other social media sites, and bumping into each other on a night out.

CAUTION! Undergoing IVF could lead to a bad sex

Couple having sex For couples undergoing in-vitro fertilization, or IVF, sex life can suffer, according to a new study and reportedly one of the first of its kind to examine sexual dynamics of couples navigating the quagmire of fertility treatments. "Sex is for pleasure and for reproduction, but attention

to pleasure often goes by the wayside for people struggling to conceive," said researcher Nicole Smith of Indiana University in the US.

"With assisted reproductive technologies (ART), couples often report that they feel like a science experiment, as hormones are administered and sex has to be planned and timed." She adds: "It can become stressful and is often very unromantic and regimented; relationships are known to suffer during the process."

The study involved 270 women who completed an online questionnaire, as well as interviews with nearly 130 men and women undergoing IVF treatments. Also the researchers interviewed 70 physicians, nurses, and mental health experts who work directly with patients.

Compared to the control group, a sample of healthy women not undergoing IVF, women undergoing IVF reported less sexual desire and interest in sex, as well as more difficulty with orgasms. They were also more likely to report vaginal pain and dryness. Also, when talking to their physicians, the researchers noted that sex life issues weren't likely to come up.

"There's just a dearth of knowledge on how infertility affects sexual behavior," researcher Jody Lyneé Madeira adds. "The focus is more likely to be on the social and support dimensions of the relationship, but sex is a big part of that. Just letting patients know they aren't alone in this would be helpful."

The researchers say patients could benefit from being told up front about potential side effects, counseled on remedies or referred to a sex therapist. "Women interested in ART are generally well-educated and tend to spend time researching these issues," Madeira said. "They would be very responsive to this information, and proactive."

'Posing topless as a teenager drove me to nervous breakdown,' reveals Kate Moss

Kate Moss has told how she suffered a nervous breakdown as a teenager and was in tears after being pushed into posing topless.

The model, who rarely gives interviews, spoke about the pressures she was under and how for many years she had no-one 'to take care of' her, apart from the spell she spent dating Hollywood star Johnny Depp.

She told Vanity Fair magazine how uncomfortable she felt while working on a shoot for style magazine The Face with photographer Corinne Day which helped to propel her to fame.



Vulnerable: Kate Moss has revealed she suffered a nervous breakdown after being asked to straddle Marky Mark in the infamous Calvin Klein campaign

'I see a 16-year-old now, and to ask her to take her clothes off would feel really weird,' she said.

'But they were like "If you don't do it, then we're not going to book you again". So I'd lock myself in the toilet and cry and then come out and do it. I never felt very comfortable about it.'

Moss, 38, said she was not happy with her 'boobs' and even made the only man on the photoshoot turn his back while the pictures were being taken.

Following in her fashionable footsteps: Kate Moss's daughter matches her supermodel mum in fur-trimmed boots on sunny day out

BLOGS OF THE DAY: ''Heroin chic' Kate never took drugs'

The supermodel claimed her mental health suffered while working on a campaign for Calvin Klein in the early 1990s.

'I had a nervous breakdown when I was 17 or 18, when I had to go and work with Marky Mark and Herb Ritts,' Moss said.

It didn't feel like me at all. I felt really bad about straddling this buff guy. I didn't like it. I couldn't get out of bed for two weeks. I thought I was going to die.'



The original: Seductive Sixties siren Brigitte Bardot in a scene of the film 'Les Femmes' from 1969

She went on: 'It was just anxiety. Nobody takes care of you mentally. There's a massive pressure to do what you have to do.'

Moss said Depp came to her aid during their four-year relationship, but following their split she said there was 'years and years of crying'.

She told interviewer James Fox in Vanity Fair's December issue: 'I really lost that gauge of somebody I could trust.'

Now Kate has few qualms  string-vest to cover her modesty, heavy eyeliner and her hair tousled, Miss Moss pouts in the manner of former French model and actress Brigitte Bardot.

The interview is accompanied by a striking image of Kate, 38, in a series of photographs for the magazine's December issue.



Mother daughter duo: Kate was seen with her daughter on a visit to a farm house last weekend

Kate, who has a nine-year-old daughter Grace from a previous relationship, is now happily married to Jamie Hince, guitarist with Indie rock band The Kills.



The pair now live in London’s leafy Highgate area and Miss Moss has reportedly cut back on her partying in order to try for a baby with Mr Hince.

In her new autobiography Kate Moss distances herself from the term 'heroin chic, saying she never touched the drug.

The nickname was given to Kate in 1993 and sparked a trend where young women were desperate to copy her look.

However despite being branded as one, Kate Moss says she was never a user and was given the nickname because people thought she looked like she took heroin.

'If I was anorexic or if I was on heroin, maybe I would have been a bit more "Oh dear!",' she told the Daily Mirror.

'But I wasn't

any of those things that they were painting me to be.

A friend of Miss Moss – who is known for her wild antics and former drug-use - previously said : 'Kate has made no secret among her circle that she’d love to have a baby with Jamie.'

'There’s no doubt in my mind that the prospect of another child is a massive motivation for her to clean up her act.

'She eats like a horse now, too, while back in her catwalk days she could easily "forget" to have lunch and dinner.

'She’s still Kate, but she’s somehow different. It’s a change for the better, if you ask me.'

Vanity Fair's December 2012 issue is on sale from Friday.

Hulk Hogan's sex tape embarrassed family

HULK Hogan's sex tape has "embarrassed" his family.

The 'TNA IMPACT' star was stunned earlier this month when intimate footage of himself and Heather Clem appeared online, and though his ex-wife Linda Hogan (pix) is "devastated" by the clip - which was filmed while they were still married - she wasn't shocked by the film.

Linda - who has children Brooke, 24, and Nick, 22, with the wrestler - said: "It really is quite an embarrassment for our family. I'm a little devastated, but I'm not really shocked.

"I knew that he was having affairs and I knew that he was cheating."

Although Linda claims Hulk - whose real name is Terry Bollea - had affairs during their marriage, she insists she didn't know he had slept with Heather, who is the estranged wife of his best friend Bubba the Love Sponge.

She told 'Access Hollywood': "I didn't know about this girl."

Linda says she wanted to watch the tape to find out if she knew the woman in the video and to see whether it took place during their marriage.

She admitted: "[Watching it] actually did make me upset.

"I mean, to watch him in a room with another woman... and at the end of the day he came out and said it was definitely during the time [we were] married."

Jimmy Savile Sex-Abuse Scandal Taints Entire Era in Britain

A raft of British institutions, including members of the royal family, stand accused of being hoodwinked by the eccentric celebrity now revealed as a prolific child sex offender. But so too was the British public. 

When Sir Jimmy Savile, OBE, died last year at the age of 84, the BBC broadcast no fewer than three tribute programs to one of its most famous figures, while both the national press and the Royal Family devoted long eulogies to him. With a public career that spanned 50 years, Savile was more than just a radio DJ or TV presenter or charity worker: he was a national institution, and the revelation that he used his role to sexually abuse minors tarnished many bastions of British society by association.

Sir Jimmy Savile prepares for the Bupa Great North Run in Newcastle, England, Oct. 1, 2006. (Matthew Lewis / Getty Images)

Savile shot to fame in the early 1960s, on the back of the Beatles craze and the explosion of youth culture, and introduced the first edition of the BBC’s iconic chart show, Top of the Pops, in 1964. Before then he’d worked as a radio DJ, professional sportsman, and coal miner. With his shock of long white hair, fast Yorkshire patter, and famous demotic catchphrase  (“’Ow’s about that then guys and gals”) Savile carefully built up an image of postwar classlessness. He drove a Rolls-Royce and smoked Cuban Cohibas, but wore track suits, medallions, and trainers. He mixed with rock stars, prime ministers, and royalty, but always tried be down with the kids on the street or with hospital patients. His primetime TV show, Jim’ll Fix It, lasted 20 years and consistently gained the highest ratings. In it, Savile offered to answer the wishes of children in a fairy godfather–like fashion: for hundreds those youthful dreams turned into a nightmare.

Though the BBC stands in the dock for promoting Savile’s TV career, not to mention canceling a Newsnight investigation into his child abuse last year, the taint spreads much wider than the public-service broadcaster.

Savile was a tireless fundraiser, almost single-handedly creating the modern image of celebrity as charity worker. As a result, he was given unprecedented access to an array of public institutions. He had rooms at several NHS hospitals, including the famous spinal injuries unit at Stoke Mandeville, for which he raised $20 million, at the same time he allegedly abused helpless young patients. He was so popular at the country’s main secure psychiatric hospital, Broadmoor, that he called himself the institution’s “godfather” and was asked to head up a government task force to overhaul the management of the place in 1988, while he also sexually molested young, vulnerable inmates.

Savile’s mixture of Mr. Popular and Mr. Charity made him a welcome figure to politicians and prime ministers, and he led several public-awareness campaigns, most famously the ‘clunk click’ ads that explained the mandatory wearing of car seatbelts. He was a particular favorite of Margaret Thatcher’s; she reportedly invited him to 11 successive New Year’s dinners at the official country residence at Chequers. According to the historian Eliza Filby, whose social biography of the 1980s, God and Mrs Thatcher, is due to be published next year, “Savile was—as far I know—the only former miner to have dinner with Mrs. T.”

“No one found him threatening,” Filby told The Daily Beast: “He was the acceptable face of ’60s counterculture and even made it respectable.”

So respectable was Savile, a teetotaler and devout Catholic, that he was made a papal knight by the Vatican, and became a regular visitor to St. James’s Palace after meeting the Prince of Wales through his charity work. When Charles’s marriage to Princess Diana hit the rocks in the late ’80s, the prince astonishingly called in Savile—the renowned professional bachelor—to provide marriage guidance for both Diana and Sarah Ferguson.

As Diana revealed in the “Squidygate” tapes to her friend James Gilbey: “‘Jimmy Savile rang me up yesterday, and he said: ‘I’m just ringing up, my girl, to tell you that His Nibs [Prince Charles] has asked me to come and help out the redhead [the Duchess of York].’”

Prince Charles led tributes to Savile when he died last year. While there’s no suggestion the heir apparent had any clue about the celebrity’s predatory sexuality, Savile did host Charles at his Glen Coe hideaway with scantily clad waitresses. The same cottage, now daubed with graffiti calling Savile “a beast,” has been the focus of police investigations. But Savile’s self-mocking lewdness appeared to deceive most people: they took it as a joke rather than the strange form of postmodern irony it really was—Savile hid his predilections in plain sight.

Beyond the institutional failures then, several generations of television watchers and radio listeners were duped by the conman turned showman. That’s the shiver of recognition that has fascinated and appalled millions in the last few weeks as archive television footage is replayed: Savile manhandling underage girls on Top of the Pops, or jokingly divvying up adoring groupies with Gary Glitter on Clunk Click. The eccentric TV persona, with benefit of 20/20 hindsight, looks downright creepy. It’s so obvious now, but why wasn’t it then?

Because of the extent of his crimes, some people knew the truth. But while rumors abounded, even Britain’s feral tabloid press feared taking on one of the country’s biggest celebrities. In a 2000 documentary, When Louis Met Jimmy, Louis Theroux aired the unsaid, and directly asked Savile if he used the “I don’t like children” line to stop the newspapers pursuing a “Is he/isn’t he a pedophile?” question. “Yes, yes, yes. Oh, aye,” Savile responded: “How do they know whether I am or not? How does anybody know whether I am? Nobody knows whether I am or not. I know I’m not …”

Scotland Yard’s current investigation into “Savile and others,” Operation Yewtree, has discovered 400 leads in the last month alone. It has bailed Gary Glitter for further questioning in December, and more arrests are still expected. It’s not yet certain whether, as alleged in last week’s Panorama, Savile was part of anything as coherent as “a pedophile ring at the BBC.” But his successful exploitation of vulnerable children for so long raises a bigger question of complicity.

At the heart of Savile’s corrupt power was the knowledge that the complaints of victims would be disbelieved, discounted, and repressed. Andrew O’Hagan, writing in the London Review of Books, blames the institutionalized ethos of the time, which both elevated and exploited childhood and youth. “The public made Jimmy Savile,” O’Hagan wrote. “It loved him. It knighted him.”

However, if some were knowingly complicit or turned a blind eye, most of the British public has been stunned and disgusted by the revelations of the last few weeks—a “tsunami of filth” as the head of the BBC Trust, Chris Patten, recently called it. It’s easy to see Savile as another Charles Manson or Fred West, the dark face of ’60s sexual liberation, which became an excuse for predatory men to exploit young girls. But as Eliza Filby points out, Savile was beloved of the conservative moral majority who so often decried the “permissive society” in its rock ’n’ roll manifestation. He was the “uncle” just as the BBC is affectionately known as “auntie.”

Savile molded public opinion, but he also clearly manipulated it. Without his TV fame and his role of gatekeeper to teenagers who wanted to meet rock stars or young children who wanted to realize their dreams, he never would have been able to offend so prolifically, and with such impunity. The Guardian columnist Deborah Orr was one of the first to make the connection between Savile’s public life and private crimes. “A paedophile’s grooming process is largely about persuading a victim to feel that it’s wrong to think badly of him,” she told The Daily Beast, “In that respect Savile groomed the whole nation.”

With 300 potential victims identified in the last month alone, Savile is the center of one of the biggest investigations into child abuse in British history. He allegedly abused relatives, psychiatric patients, victims of spinal injuries, and even members of his own family. Incredulity and astonishment enabled his abuse as much as complicity or cover-up. As Savile told Karin Ward, a pupil at a school for emotionally disturbed young girls, who threatened to go to the authorities: “No one will believe you.”

Marriage on the Ballot

The freedom to marry is a fundamental right that should not have to be won or defended at the ballot box. In fact, ballot initiatives are a bad way to write or rewrite laws of any kind. Unfortunately, that is the reality of American politics, which is why same-sex marriage measures on the Nov. 6 ballot in Maine, Washington, Maryland and Minnesota could turn out to be pivotal in the struggle for marriage equality.

Thanks to court rulings and legislative victories, same-sex marriage is now legal in six states and the District of Columbia, and polls show that a majority of Americans support the legalization of marriages for gay, lesbian and bisexual couples. But same-sex marriage has never won a ballot referendum. 

The measure in Maine probably has the best chance of winning. Three years ago, Maine voters rejected a marriage-equality bill that had been approved by the State Legislature. But, instead of giving up, supporters of the freedom to marry went right back to knocking on doors, raising money, honing their arguments and organizing for a new vote this fall to legalize same-sex marriages. 

Although recent polls of likely Maine voters are encouraging, the outcome is still far from certain. Historically, polls on such ballot tests have been misleading, and anti-marriage forces are waging a loud propaganda campaign. They are running television commercials suggesting that marriage-equality opponents would be unfairly “fired, sued, fined and punished” if the referendum passes, and that it is possible to treat gay and lesbian couples fairly while still excluding them from the right to marry. It would help if the state’s two supposedly moderate Republican senators, Susan Collins and Olympia Snowe, who is retiring, would stand up against forces of intolerance within their party by publicly supporting the referendum. 

In Washington State, voters will be deciding whether to let stand the authorization of same-sex marriage handily approved by the Legislature and signed into law by the state’s Democratic governor, Christine Gregoire, in February. As in Maine, opponents of marriage equality are trying to make the fallacious argument that marriage equality would somehow harm heterosexual couples. They also insist that the domestic partnership scheme approved by voters in the state three years ago goes far enough. 

The state’s Roman Catholic leaders have played a vocal role in trying to turn out a big “no” vote by Catholic parishioners. But major corporate players in the Seattle area, including Microsoft, Amazon and Starbucks, are supporting the measure. That is an encouraging development for the future of the issue nationwide. 

Same-sex marriage also stands a chance of prevailing in Maryland, where the same-sex marriage law was narrowly approved by both chambers of the Legislature and signed in March by the state’s Democratic governor, Martin O’Malley. But the law was put off when opponents gathered sufficient signatures to toss the issue to a voter referendum. 

If the law is approved by voters, the victory will owe much to the vigorous campaigning of Mr. O’Malley, the momentum created by President Obama’s endorsement of marriage equality and efforts, including by the N.A.A.C.P., to bolster support among blacks, who make up nearly 30 percent of Maryland’s residents. 

The issue before Minnesota voters is whether to double-down on the state’s existing law outlawing same-sex marriage by enshrining the antigay ban in the State Constitution. With polls showing a tight contest, it is hard to believe that a majority of Minnesotans would opt to place their state so sharply on the wrong side of fairness.

Sex blogger apologised for "bringing disrepute" to NUS

National University of Singapore (NUS) scholar Alvin Tan Jye Yee (above), who made headlines recently for posting an explicit sex blog, has apologised to the school.

The National University of Singapore (NUS) scholar, who made headlines recently for posting an explicit sex blog, has apologised to the school.

Speaking to the media after a disciplinary inquiry at NUS on Wednesday, law undergraduate Alvin Tan Jye Yee, said: "I apologised for bringing disrepute to the school".

But the 24 year-old said he had reiterated during the inquiry that what he did was done in his "own personal time as a private individual and not an NUS student".

"What I did was a victimless crime," he said. "Nobody was really harmed or hurt in the process."

Published on Oct 25, 2012

Malaysian cyber cops get on case of sex bloggers

Police from the Bukit Aman Cyber­Security and Multimedia Investigation Division have begun a probe into the case of a couple who made public their sexual trysts in their blog Sumptuous Erotica.

PETALING JAYA (THE STAR/ASIA NEWS NETWORK) - Police from the Bukit Aman CyberSecurity and Multimedia Investigation Division have begun a probe into the case of a couple who made public their sexual trysts in their blog Sumptuous Erotica.

The blog was set up by National University of Singapore (NUS) law student Alvin Tan, 24, and marketing graduate Vivian Lee, 23, to upload photos and videos of themselves in suggestive poses as well as having sex.

Federal Commercial Crime Investi­gation Department Director Comm Datuk Syed Ismail Syed Azizan said his department was looking into the blog.

"I have directed the Cyber­Security and Multimedia Investigation Division to look into the matter," Mr Syed Ismail said on Wednesday.

Bangladesh film tackles culture of underage sex

35mm film reel, which is used to shoot feature films.

For conservative Muslim-majority Bangladesh, it is a forgotten and often shocking part of history: a time when aristocrats would openly flaunt male teenage singers whom they took as lovers.

Homosexuality remains illegal in Bangladesh, but the practice of rich Muslim landlords in rural areas publicly living with adolescent "Ghetu" males each monsoon season was widely accepted 150 years ago.

Now a new film, "Ghetuputra Komola" (Pleasure-boy Komola), has highlighted how perceptions of adolescence have changed in a country where the typical marriage age for girls used to be about 13, to grooms aged 20 or above.

The film tells of a boy who sings sexually-suggestive songs and who becomes the obsession of a Muslim man, drawing the ire of his jealous wife.

Set in the northeastern district of Habiganj, the film explores what many would today describe as a paedophilia culture that existed in remote communities that were often cut off for four months each year by the annual rains.

For many wealthy Muslim men, it was a time to listen to Ghetu singers and live with them as lovers, a lifestyle that died as orthodox Muslim values grew and as the area became less isolated from the rest of the country.
Faridur Reza Sagar, the movie's producer, said that the subject was "a story worth telling" despite touching on such sensitive topics as gay and underage sex.

He cautioned against a romantic view of the Ghetu culture.

"When the filmmaker (Humayun Ahmed) came up with the idea, I was a little bit sceptical. It was a controversial issue. As Humayun has said, it's our good fortune that this tradition is gone," he said.

Ahmed, Bangladesh's most popular fiction writer and the country's leading film director and TV drama-maker, died in July in the United States after a battle against colon cancer aged 64.

He wrote over 200 fiction and non-fiction books, many of them bestsellers in Bangladesh, and his death was marked by tributes from the president and prime minister.

"The man's wives did not mind, and a form of polygamy evolved," Ahmed said before he died.
"The blatant infidelity in the name of folk music is no more. With it, a strange ritual is lost."

Growing up in the low-lying Netrokona district 55 years ago, musician Abdul Quddus Bayati experienced the last days of Ghetu songs and was once part of one such group.

He said that only boys who could sing and were aged between 14-18 were chosen, often bought or recruited from their poor parents for a yearly or multi-year contract.

"The money lured many poor families," he said.

"I saw how Ghetus were courted by the rich. There was a time when the flutes used by Ghetus were auctioned off with dozens ready to pay as much as they could."

"Even the pillows they used sold in auction," he said.

Bayati, who wrote a song for Ahmed's film, said some young Ghetus became romantically attached to their male hosts. Such relationships would be seen as exploitative and criminal across much of the world today.
"There was competition among the rich people to keep the Ghetus with them," he said.

"They would have sex and nobody would bother. There was no protest from the Muslim clergy. Their (the clergy's) gaining of strength is a relatively new thing," he said.

Homosexual acts are banned by law dating back to 19th century when the country was part of British India and any "unusual carnal intercourse" can still land a person to jail for life.

The age of marriage has increased in the last two decades, especially among the educated, but many underage weddings still occur in defiance of the legal minimum of 18-years-old.

Film critic Ahmad Mazhar believes that the movie only got made, and escaped the censor's cuts, due to Humayun Ahmed's fame and reputation.

"The board did not cut a single scene, which is remarkable given its history of censoring even harmless films," Mazhar told AFP.

"The strange thing was that this practice was exclusively confined among the rich Bengali Muslims. Their wives had no choice but to endure the pain in silence.

"Had Ahmed not made this film, we might never know about Ghetu songs and how they originated centuries ago. It was a hugely popular music and the society at that time accepted both the music and sexuality without any qualms."

"Ghetuputra Komola", which has had a limited release in the Bangladeshi capital Dhaka, was last month selected as the country's entry for the chance to compete in the best foreign film category at next year's Oscars.

Jimmy Savile sex scandal: Panorama claims BBC pulled documentary after pressure from bosses

Explosive claims: Panorama is set to plunge the BBC into fresh controversy over Jimmy Savile.

A Panorama documentary is set to plunge the BBC into fresh controversy  by claiming the corporation pulled an investigation into the Jimmy Savile sex abuse scandal after coming under pressure from senior managers.

The hour-long documentary lifts the lid on the extent to which the higher echelons of the corporation were aware of the claims against the late DJ. BBC foreign editor John Simpson describes the scandal as "the worst crisis that I can remember in my nearly 50 years at the BBC".

Newsnight editor Peter Rippon maintains the piece - which was due to run last December - was pulled for editorial reasons, and not because the potentially damaging revelations coincided with a planned tribute to the star.

But on Monday evening, the hour-long documentary will hear from Newsnight producer Meirion Jones and reporter Liz MacKean, who both claim they had interviewed at least four alleged victims of Savile - and confirmed with Surrey Police that they had investigated sex abuse complaints against the Jim'll Fix It star in 2007.

They say that when they told bosses the Crown Prosecution Service did not charge Savile because of insufficient evidence, they were told to end the investigation and the show was withdrawn.

The horror stories about Savile only fully emerged after ITV broadcast a documentary at the start of this month - sparking mayhem at the BBC over losing its scoop and leading to the allegations of a cover-up.
A Panorama statement said: "Peter Rippon has always maintained the story was pulled for 'editorial reasons' and not because of a potentially embarrassing clash with planned BBC tributes to Savile over Christmas. Panorama has found no evidence to contradict that view."

Panorama, which airs at 10.35pm on BBC1, also probes why BBC chiefs gave different explanations over the nature of the documentary and why it was dropped.

In the aftermath, Director General George Entwistle wrote to all staff saying the Newsnight investigation was into "Surrey Police's enquiry into Jimmy Savile towards the end of 2011".

Speaking as he left for work this morning Mr Entwistle declined to comment on the allegations made in the Panorama documentary but said: "There will be a BBC statement later this morning touching upon some of the issues raised."

Mr Jones immediately emailed Mr Entwistle countering that, writing: "George - one note - the investigation was into whether Jimmy Savile was a paedophile - I know because it was my investigation.

"We didn't know that Surrey police had investigated Jimmy Savile - no-one did - that was what we found when we investigated and interviewed his victims.

Tanzania: Unsafe Sex Rampant - Study

A RECENT survey by the Ministry of Health and Social Welfare shows that prostitutes or Female Sex Workers (FSW) in Dar es Salaam attract more than 15,000 men a day and half of them prefer unprotected sex at a higher price.

And the business involving at least 5,000 to 10,000 female commercial sex workers fetches between 50,000/- and 200,000/- a month depending on the 'value' of the worker. According to "HIV Behavioural and Biological Surveillance Survey among Female Sexual Workers in Dar es Salaam," conducted in 2010 and launched at the weekend, many FSW manage to 'sleep' with at least five men a day while condom use being less consistent.

But to make it even worrying is that three in every ten FSW have contracted HIV while more than 10 in every 100 have Sexual Transmitted Diseases (STI) including the deadly Hepatitis B and C. Illiteracy and poverty among many FSW is reported as the main contributing factors behind the risky business which left more than 30 per cent of the estimated 7,500 of them to contract HIV-AIDS but haven't retired from the business.

The survey showed further that 72 per cent of the FSW had attended some or completed primary education, while 19.4 per cent had some or completed secondary education and seven per cent have no any formal education. According to the survey, HIV prevalence among FSW was higher than that of Dar es Salaam women general population aged between 15 and 49 whose prevalence was 10.4 per cent.

The report also shows the prevalence of syphilis among female sex workers at 2.0 per cent, Hepatitis B virus (6.3 per cent), Hepatitis C virus (3.4 per cent), gonorrhea (10.5 per cent), chlamydia (6.3 per cent), T. Vaginalis (4.2 per cent), candidiasis (8.0 per cent), as well as other sexually transmitted infections (27.3 per cent).

According to the survey, 96.3 per cent of the FSWs used condoms when meeting their clients, while only 31.6 per cent used a condom when they met their steady partner. Launching the report, the Acting Director of Preventive Services in the Ministry of Health and Social Welfare, Mr Elias Chinamo, said new strategies are needed to address the situation.

He said the government was working on various options on how effectively the problem can be eliminated, but said it was too early to buy an idea that the business be legalised apart from the fact it was now almost beyond normal control."The situation being how it is today, the decision to legalise this activity is debatable although it doesn't sound wise for the time being," he said on Friday.

According to Mr Chinamo, law enforcement authorities particularly the Police Force should now come with a different strategies of dealing with FSW instead of chasing and arresting them. Commenting on the findings, the Acting Chief Medical Officer, Dr Donnan Mmbando said the government was committed to improving the health of every Tanzanian including sex workers.

"The ministry will work with local and international stakeholders and funding organisations to implement or respond to the recommendations of this report," he said. The US based Centre for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) Epidemiology and Surveillance Team Leader, Dr Mary Kibona, said due to the seriousness of the HIV prevalence in the country, the US has extended its support to realise the permanent war on the same.

She said already the US government has decided for the President's Emergency Plan for Aids Relief (PEPFAR) programme to work on permanent basis, instead of emergency arrangement as earlier planned when it was incepted.

"Due to the magnitude of HIV situation in the country, stakeholders' outlook like FEPFAR have now changed and will now operate permanently to contribute in eliminating this vice," she said.

The investigation and survey involved the National AIDS Control Programme (NACP), CDC, Global Control Programme of Tanzania and Atlanta Georgia and University of California, San Francisco (UCSF) as well as University Technical Assistance Project, California.

Sex And Man Charged With Sex Crimes Involving 2 Children

A man in the east has been arrested and charged with several sex crimes involving children.
According to The Daily News of Jacksonville, 40-year-old Apolonio Venegas Sr., of Richlands, was arrested Friday by the Onslow County Sheriff's Department.

The Daily News reports Venegas is accused of engaging in sex acts with two different girls on multiple occasions, one when she was 10, 13 and again when she was 14, and the other girl, when she was 9, and again when she was 10. The paper's report says charges include 11 counts of indecent liberties with a child, five counts of first degree sex offense with a child, three charges each of crime against nature and statutory rape/sex offense with the defendant greater than or equal to 6 years, and two charges of felony child abuse through sexual act.

The Daily News Of Jacksonville says according to deputies the offenses occurred between September of 2002 and September of 2009, and that his bond was set at $975,000.

Sex blog couple: Let's talk about sex!

Where do you go after you've posted naked pictures and sex videos of you and your lover on the Internet?

Let's ask Paris Hilton, Kim Kardashian and Pamela Anderson-and for that matter, Colin Farrell, Kanye West, Tommy Lee, Fred Durst from Limp Bizkit and perhaps some politicians, too.

Truth is, bedroom photos and sex romp tapes are great for jacking up a celebrity's profile, and many a star have had their career explode on the back of a sex scandal. Now, Malaysian sex bloggers Alvin Tan and Vivian Lee are finding out just what a wide rollercoaster ride that kind of infamy can be.

Public opinion has been split on their actions, from people tearing them apart and putting them down with every vile name in the book to supporters who champion their right to freedom of expression and commending them for standing up for what they believe in.

Not that either of them could care less what people think.

In an exclusive interview with Joanne Kam and Xandria Ooi for Capital FM yesterday-a separate conversation was recorded for Red FM, another Star Media Group-owned radio station-both Alvin, 24, and Vivian, 23, looked to be thoroughly enjoying the attention and made no apologies for being who they are.

"Doing things like bungee jumping or skydiving is pretty standard stuff. I want to hang out with people who have done things which are unprecedented," said Alvin.

Vivian certainly fits the bill. Before he met her, Alvin says his ex-girlfriends were pretty vanilla in their sexual proclivities and weren't too keen to experiment with him.

"Most were cowards," he said. "OK, I take that back-they were unadventurous."

In fact, it was Vivian's idea initially to take some photos of them in the nude and tape them having sex.
But it was a mutual agreement between the two young adults to post their explicit pictures and videos on the Internet and share the lot with, well, the whole wide world.

After making contact on Facebook, Alvin revealed, "We started taking the photos the second time we met. We were fooling around in a hotel in Penang on holiday, and she was totally naked and she asked if I wanted to take her picture. I was totally game for it."

At first, their photos appeared on their Facebook profiles. But when other users flagged their pictures as inappropriate, they took their work to a blog they created called Sumptuous Erotica. Even then, the hits were low-until they posted the link in a social forum.

And the rest is history.

Ex-NUS law scholar and girlfriend post explicit videos online Click on thumbnail to view (Photos: Internet)
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Ex-NUS law scholar and girlfriend post explicit videos online Click on thumbnail to view (Photos: Internet)
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No apologies, no wedding
Neither Alvin nor Vivian is shying away from the limelight-not that anyone would accuse them of being shy. But learning to manage and deal with the media and public attention over their controversial decisions takes some getting used to.
"Back then, not a lot of people cared about what we did or said," said Alvin. "But now a lot of people seem to care about what we do, at least temporarily, so that's good."

One thing that's out of the question for sure is, "I will not be making a public apology," said Alvin in a nine-minute, fully-clothed message that they posted on YouTube on Tuesday prior to recording their radio appearance yesterday.

"It has never crossed my mind. What do I have to apologise for? For hurting your soft, sensitive feelings or, I don't know, breaching some moral code you hold dearly to yourself which I do not hold to?"

That said, there are repercussions that are now starting to sink in. For one thing, Vivian-who just graduated with a marketing degree from Multimedia University-is facing with the very real possibility of being evicted from her family home in JB where she lives with her widowed mum and older brother.

"My mother gave me an ultimatum-marry Alvin or move out within a month," she told Joanne and Xandria, adding that she was "a little scared" about that. "My mother also scolded me and pleaded with me not to give any more interviews. But I guess I'm going against that, too."

There's no chance of her mum getting that wedding banquet any time soon, as the prospect of marriage for the lovers looks zero to none. Neither of them are monogamous, but Vivian says she could end up moving in with Alvin at his rented pad in KL-which might cramp his lifestyle, we think, or maybe not.

"She can depend on me," promised Alvin on the radio. "I can provide financially."

Alvin, an ASEAN scholar of law at the National University of Singapore, is currently spending his leave of absence (unrelated to this development) in KL and with his parents in PJ. But he also faces a possible expulsion, on top of having his scholarship revoked, after he and Vivian made news headlines in Singapore.


Despite that, Alvin says he doesn't see what the "big thing" is if NUS gives him the boot because he's got his sights set firmly on achieving even more infamy. Both he and Vivian want to break into showbusiness and told Capital FM that they're not ruling out becoming bona fide porn stars if the money is good.